Drawing on both personal experiences and the latest scientific research, Dealing with Feeling gives readers a practical framework for understanding and responding to emotions. There are no “bad” emotions—only ones we haven’t learned how to manage. By exploring the science behind emotional regulation, author Marc Brackett offers tangible, evidence-based strategies, helping readers to identify their current emotions, determine how they want to feel, and implement a strategy to get there.
Marc Brackett, PhD, is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor at Yale University. He’s spent more than 25 years researching emotional intelligence and its impact on learning, relationships, leadership, and health. He’s the author of the bestselling book, Permission to Feel, and the creator of RULER, a preK-12 school approach to teaching emotional intelligence in over 5,000 schools worldwide.
Marc works with schools, Fortune 500 companies, and global organizations to help people use their emotions wisely and live better lives.
Many of us don’t deal with our feelings in healthy ways that produce desirable outcomes. Not being able to deal with our feelings leads to many of the challenges our world faces today – violence, division, and mental health struggles.
Brackett’s research shows that most adults were never explicitly taught how to manage emotions, either at home or in school. When children and adults develop skills to recognize, understand, label, express, and regulate (RULER) emotions early, they are less likely to turn to harmful coping mechanisms later. Children who grow up fluent in their emotions, supported by teachers and parents who model healthy regulation, thrive. This book was written to create a shift to ripple across workplaces, families, and governments, dramatically improving both mental health and societal functioning.
The book draws on both Brackett’s personal experiences and the latest scientific research to provide a practical framework for understanding and responding to emotions in helpful ways.
The book is 320 pages.
While Dealing with Feeling is not part of a series, it is the second publication from Brackett on the topic of emotional intelligence. Brackett’s previous book, Permission to Feel, a best seller translated into 25 languages, introduces the five RULER skills of emotional intelligence: recognizing, understanding, labeling, expressing, and regulating. Dealing with Feeling delves deeper into the fifth RULER skill: regulating emotion.
Readers will learn to:
Yes. Brackett offers tangible, evidence-based strategies that teach readers to identify their current emotions, determine how they want to feel, and implement an action plan to get there.
The book includes “Your Practical Guide to Building Emotion Regulation Skills.” Readers can use this guide to set goals, evaluate progress, overcome barriers, and stay on track.
Permission to Feel introduces the five RULER skills of emotional intelligence: recognizing, understanding, labeling, expressing, and regulating emotion. Dealing with Feeling focuses on the fifth skill of regulating, integrating decades of empirical research on emotion management into a practical framework.
Yes. The book draws on personal experiences, the latest scientific research on emotion regulation, and Brackett’s extensive experience working with schools in the US and worldwide.
Both. This book helps readers develop the skills of emotion regulation and co-regulation. These skills are essential to every aspect of life —personal and professional.
RULER is professional development and preK-12 curricula that teaches the skills of emotional intelligence (recognizing, understanding, labeling, expressing, and regulating emotions). Dealing with Feeling focuses on the fifth RULER skill, providing science-backed strategies for managing one’s own emotions and helping others to manage theirs. Dealing with Feeling can supplement RULER implementation as a suggested reading for staff or an organized staff book club so that staff can learn and practice these strategies with their colleagues and students.
Dealing with Feeling is for all adults looking for research-based strategies to better manage their emotions and help others to manage theirs. Concepts presented within the book also may be appropriate for young adult readers.
The book is suitable for professionals from any field, especially those who experience intense emotions as part of their jobs or manage others who do.
Yes, and we encourage it. The book offers accessible and thought-provoking insights, making it a valuable supplement to undergraduate and graduate courses in psychology, public health, or education studies. Brackett will be hosting several virtual book clubs, each designed for specific audiences. Dates and times are listed on this page. The Dealing with Feeling Discussion Guide will be available soon at https://contact.rulerapproach.org/dealing-with-feeling. Please check back or complete the contact form on the page to be notified when it becomes available.
The Dealing with Feeling Discussion Guide will be available soon at https://contact.rulerapproach.org/dealing-with-feeling. Please check back or complete the contact form on the page to be notified when it becomes available.
Dealing with Feeling is available in hardcover, eBook, and Audiobook formats.
English
Read the sample on Amazon.
Yes. You can find them at https://contact.rulerapproach.org/dealing-with-feeling/#upcoming-events
Yes. You can find them at https://contact.rulerapproach.org/dealing-with-feeling/#upcoming-events
Yes. You can register to join book–related events at https://contact.rulerapproach.org/dealing-with-feeling/#book-clubs/
How We Feel App is a free, well-being app, co-created by Marc Brackett and the founders of Pinterest, where you can check in and journal about your emotions.
RULER is the professional development and preK-12 classroom curriculum that teaches the skills of emotional intelligence.
RULER-trained schools subscribed to the RULER Online platform also will have access to resources for the classroom.
The Managing Emotions in Times of Uncertainty and Stress Coursera Course is an online course designed for school leaders, educators, and staff to learn skills and strategies to understand and manage emotions, with a focus on stress and anxiety.
The Dealing with Feeling Discussion Guide will be available soon at https://contact.rulerapproach.org/dealing-with-feeling. Please check back or complete the contact form on the page to be notified when it becomes available.
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